Silence Does NOT Speak Volumes!

si·lence n.
The condition or quality of being or keeping still and silent.
The absence of sound; stillness.
A period of time without speech or noise.
Refusal or failure to speak out.

If there's one valuable lesson that I've learned this year about relating and dating, it would have to be that silence does NOT speak volumes! In fact, everytime that I have given someone the silence as a tool of cluing them into the fact that I'm NOT interested in them, it has back-fired or fueled the fire even more.

The truth of the matter is that I just have high expectations for those I let in. Usually I only let people in who I see something spectacular in...this drive, this passion, this karma, this incredible energy or incredible potential. I do not care for loosers (ie. people who do not make any effort towards humanity and do nothing to improve the dissatisfactions that they have about their own lives).--This goes for friendships, as well as for people I date.

I refuse to believe that there are people who are worthless in this world. However, I have come across a few too many people that just don't give a care about what their purpose is in life. They live their lives soaking up all the resources around them and sucking other people dry while they themselves do nothing to improve their circumstance.

You may be thinking, "What in the world does any of this have to do with the first comment about silence??" Well, I will explain...

In my life, I have few that have been silent. These would be people that find it necessary to withdraw themselves from my friendship because they lack the guts to admitt that I make them uncomfortable. What's so hard about saying that??? I'm not so fragile that I cannot handle it. As a matter of fact, I am one that thrives on confrontations and I love conflict for the shear fact that it causes me to MOVE...to GROW...it sparks me into a metamorphic phase and I become a better person for it. I do not wallow in self-pity over one person who does not like me for some reason...I like to know the reason so that I can work on it.